After Sex All Animals Are Sad

Little is known about what happens in the brain during sex.

“Sex and Depression: In the Brain, if Not the Mind”

“One patient, a young man in his mid-20s, described it this way: ‘After sex, I feel literally achy and depressed for about a day.’ Otherwise, he had a clean bill of health, both medical and psychiatric: well adjusted, hard-working, lots of friends and a close-knit family. Believe me, I could have cooked up an explanation very easily. He had hidden conflicts about sex, or he had ambivalent feelings about his partner. Who doesn’t? There is nothing strange about a little sadness after sexual pleasure.” Written by Richard A. Friedman, M.D.

from The New York Times

 

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DB notes: Says Wallace Stevens in “Le Monocle de Mon Oncle: “If sex were all, then every trembling hand / Could make us squeak, like dolls, the wished-for worlds.

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Let Food Bring You Joy

I like a peanut butter, mayo, and cucumber sandwich as much as the next man with nothing in his pantry, but other times, I mean, c’mon.

“Yeah, It’s Worth It”

“It’s not like you have to stock your pantry with this kind of stuff. As a financial mortal, mine is full of bright blue boxes of supermarket pasta and three-buck cans. But here’s the thing: In the case of spaghetti and tomato sauce, you can spend very little money and have your thousand-and-first plate of something banal, or you can spend some more and have its platonic ideal. Something you will pay attention to, something you’ll concentrate on for all its nuances of texture and flavor, something you might remember for the rest of your life. Something for which to invite three of your best friends over, so that they will remember it for the rest of their lives. Twenty-five bucks doesn’t sound like very much when I think of it that way.” Written by Francis Lam.

THE PLATONIC IDEAL OF SPAGHETTI AND TOMATO SAUCE

Serves 4; takes maybe 15 minutes, most of it standing around

1 28-oz can of Miracoli di San Gennaro tomatoes
1 500-gram box of Pasta Latini Spaghetti Classico
1/4 cup extra-virgin olive oil
4 cloves of garlic, thinly sliced
Salt and pepper
Sugar, maybe
A chunk of the best Parmigiano-Reggiano you can get your hands on

· Boil water, at least a gallon of it. Yes, that much. And make it taste as salty as the sea.

· Put your oil and garlic in a cold pan and over low heat. You want a nice long infusion without browning the garlic.

· Meanwhile, purée the tomatoes and their juice in a food processor, or use a food mill if you’re the rustic-fancy type.

· When you can smell the garlic and it’s just turning golden around the edges, pour in the tomatoes. Now crank up the heat and bring it to a boil, then turn it down to a healthy simmer, and season the tomato mixture to taste with salt and pepper. A touch of sugar will bring out the tomatoes’ sweetness. Cook it, partially covered, until the puddles of tomato juice cook off the surface and you’re left with a thickened purée. It took me ten minutes. Maybe it’ll take you more, or less.

· Cook your pasta in your viciously boiling salty water. Stir it right away, and marvel at how quickly it wilts in the water and coils around your spoon, not like supermarket spaghetti that sticks straight up out of the pot for minutes.

· When is your pasta done? There are times on the box, so take a look. But do this: Taste it. Keep sticking your spoon in there. Is it still a little white in the middle? Try again in 20 seconds. Does it stick in your teeth? Try again in 20 seconds. Is it just hinting at sticking in your teeth? Good. Take a couple spoonfuls of your pasta water and splash it in your tomatoes; the starch will make the sauce and the pasta like each other. Strain your pasta and toss it with the sauce in the pan and divide into bowls.

· Grate some Parmigiano on top, finish with a little more olive oil, and get ready to remember this moment.

from Gourmet

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DB notes: Still might be simpler to work with fresh tomatoes and garlic and bottom of the larder wine.

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